I just started going out with a guy on April 12th. He's my first boyfriend (I'm 13) and i don't really know what "love" is. So i almost have an obsession over this guy because i love him. We've only been going out for a few days, and i don't feel like a "couple". To me, a couple would hang out every other day, hold hands, kiss, hug, show affections for each other, etc. We've never done any of those things except hang out. Which was only once. I have a mindset that these things should happen when you first start going out, but i also know that i should give it time. He hasn't had a girlfriend since 6th grade and i haven't had a boyfriend at all. Is it possible that we're both just scared of making a move? I say to him "Would you want to kiss?" and he replies "only if u want to." and i do. I just don't know if it will ruin the relationship, even though he says it won't. Whichever way you can help me with this, please do! thank you(:
N'aww hun. Thats cute, in a little teenager way.
If he says " only if you want to" then that obviously means he will, but he doesn't want to do it if your not ready. You shouldn't have to ask, you should just go up to him and kiss him. I think your just both a little worried about what will happen if you do kiss eachother. But infact, i think it would actually move the relationship forward a little. It is possible for you both to be scared of making a move, perhaps him more than you. If you are content with asking if he wants to kiss. The next time your both together, you should grab hold of his hand. You should make the first move babe. The maybe, he will try and take things from there himself.